Last month we spoke about the MapQuest Paradigm—the idea that God has one set of directions for our life.  And, if we miss a step or make a wrong turn that we are somehow disqualified…
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In working with Christian coaching clients, there is a special life message that’s a summary of their story—the place where their various life messages join together in one theme. What one message does Jesus speak…
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For coaching demonstrations, I’ll often ask for an audience member to share an unrealized dream as a coaching issue. Once after a lengthy wait for a volunteer in a pastor’s group, one man shared a…
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The Bible has a lot to say about our thought life. For example, Romans 12:2a, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” 2 Corinthians 10:3-5…
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One of the beauties of Christianity is that the important things are pretty simple. The on-purpose Christian life simply reflects God’s purposes: to love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength and to…
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Does your “say” match your “do”? Are you living what you truly say you value? Many of us are good talkers, but are we good walkers?
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My art got rejected from an art show today because it was deemed too dangerous. You see, I made a piece out of multicolored glass. Exploding through the glass came a fist. I named it…
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The process of habit change is not well understood by Christians, and neither are the relational resources God has given us to do it. The key factor in change is motivation, not information. It isn’t knowing what to do that produces change—it’s having the incentive to tackle the hard work it entails. We have to get motivated, to get energized to change, and then stay motivated and energized long enough to form a new habit.
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It’s 11:00 p.m., you just got back from another long day of ministry two time zones away from home, and you’re sitting alone on your hotel bed, exhausted. Tomorrow you fly back home through O’Hare, but right now all you want is to relax for a half an hour or so before bed. As you’re flipping through the channels trying to find ESPN Sports Center, there right in front of your eyes is a graphic, X-rated sex scene…
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Have you been wondering where God is at times in your life?

Psalm 139 states that God knows about every detail of our lives and there is nowhere we can go that would take…
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Making Life Messages is one of the more unilateral things God does. He decides where he is going to meet us, he creates or leverages the circumstances that get our attention and motivates us to engage him at the heart level. When we do engage him, it is Jesus that invades and transforms our hearts, too. Our job consists of two things: recognizing where he is already at work and choosing to go there with him.
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A Life Message is a place in your heart where you have deeply meet Jesus, his life has replaced your natural life, and that incarnation flows out as a Message of Christ to others. Together, these Messages combine to form your being call—the essence of the Christ-in-you that is channeled through your calling role to impact others. Life Messages are individual facets of Christ’s character you specially model, while your being call is all those messages rolled together.
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As coaches, we are trained to help people over the hurdle of being “stuck”. But what happens when you, the coach, find yourself stuck? How long does it go on? Do you have a strategy for getting moving again? Take a few minutes to read my story and see if you can relate…..
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Ever coach someone who just can’t seem to get unstuck on the road to their destiny? Our first instinct as coaches is to help the person identify circumstances that block them or internal obstacles that hold them back, and then find a way around those obstacles. We operate this way because of a core belief most coaches share: that every person has a God-given destiny, and that anyone can find and follow that destiny today.

But what if our fundamental beliefs about destiny are wrong? Does everyone really have a destiny? And…
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I am, sometimes to my dismay, our home’s IT Expert. What that really means is that when something goes wrong, I get to try to fix it. When internet connectivity problems kept me busy all of last week, it caused me to reflect on what happens in my personal life when I am not aware of the “default settings” that keep me stuck where I am, rather than moving forward into the life God wants me to live.
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