When trying to coach a person to discover their passion, one key technique is becoming aware of the client’s energy. When we speak our voice tone, volume, emotive content and so forth vary over time…
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Pain was etched upon Katies face as others quietly covered their mouths, leaned in toward the person next to them, and began whispering about her. Katie was of the staring eyes, and others…
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Genuine interest is an essential ingredient in listening (to our children) and genuinely expressing that interest keeps conversation flowing. There is nothing more disheartening than beginning to open up and share your heart with someone…
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Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.
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Leaders often appreciate having time set aside for coaching because it is the only place they can safely think out loud. Our role as a coach includes listening at multiple levels.
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Listening: Curiosity vs. Diagnosis
During coach training, my homework was to get feedback on my listening skills
You have to listen while someone talks about something valuable in his or her…
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Great Probing Questions Are Neutral.
Why did you ever take that job in the first place?
Tell me about how youve allowed your job to rob you of your personal…
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Asking Powerful Questions:
The purpose in a mans mind is like deep waters, but a man of understanding will draw it out. Proverbs 20:5
The other day my son…
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There is an incredible difference between hearing our children speak and listening so we may understand what they are saying, sensing and feeling. Think about yourself for a moment. To whom do you open up…
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Marriage Coaching CAN help a couple in crisis IF they are motivated to learn skills to communicate and resolve conflict, and IF they will humble themselves to receive a miracle from God for their marriage.
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Here are some clues I listen for that might indicate an opportunity to reframe the situation in terms of character growth (ala Romans 8:28):
Dissonance
Your words don’t fit your values, Christian worldview…
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What is interesting is listening in this third way can be one the biggest challenges I face. Not only as a coach, but also as a mom, as a wife and as a friend.
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Many couples have asked in jest if we could live with them. Why? They experience effective communication, problem-solving and goal-setting in sessions that we facilitate, and they aren’t confident that they can continue such high quality conversations without facilitators to guide and police the process. However, with enough practice and good-will, couples CAN learn to do this for themselves.
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Have you ever had one of those weeks that just wore you out? Yes? Me too.
I can’t even explain where all the time went or what I accomplished right now. I just know…
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What we do is hang on to hope for a failing coach-client relationship (or others), a job that we know we need to leave, a habit that isn’t working anymore, a closet full of things we never use…
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