Christian Life Coaching Bookstore

Posts Tagged ‘ Asking ’

How to Convert Closed Questions to Open Ones by Tony Stoltzfus

There’s an art to asking questions that make people think. Read through the following dialogue and see if you can put your finger on what’s not working in the kind of questions that are being…
Read full article...



Challenging Your Client with Ownership Questions by Tony Stoltzfus

Dave was a youth pastor from a local church whom I’d been coaching for several months. One day he began to share his frustrations with Mike, one of the adults on his leadership team. Mike had been a member of the team before Dave was hired, and his ideas of what youth ministry ought to be were aligned more with the previous youth pastor’s approach than they were to Dave’s. As Dave settled into his role and began to carry out the mandate he’d been hired to accomplish, Mike got more and more upset.
Read full article...



Asking a Key Element in Pro-Active Parent Coaching by Gregory Bland

Asking is a powerful discipline for the Pro-Active Parent Coach. The very act of asking a question sets our children’s mind toward finding an answer and creates space for additional information to emerge. Asking, instead…
Read full article...



What Makes a Parent Coaching Question Powerful? by Gregory Bland

It doesn’t matter how great our questions are, if we do not have a relational connection, the answer we receive from our children may lack meaning, heart, and depth.  One of the ingredients…
Read full article...



Was that a Question or not a Question? That is the Question! By Gregory Bland

Would it help to pray about that before making a decision?  At first glance this may sound like a great question, but, is it?  As parent coaches we understand the power of asking instead of…
Read full article...



Listening: Curiosity vs. Diagnosis

Listening: Curiosity vs. Diagnosis

“During coach training, my homework was to get feedback on my listening skills…You have to listen while someone talks about something valuable in his or her…
Read full article...



One Simple Question by Gregory Bland

The heavy footsteps, sigh, and loud thump as my son sat upon the stairs indicated something was up.  I looked up to see a disappointed look upon my sons face.  He stared into my eyes…
Read full article...



Clarifying: The Cure for Misunderstandings between Parents and Children by Gregory Bland

“Dad, if I like the color of the dachshund, and the parents are ‘good natured,’ I am going to hold the puppy.”
“O.K., but can I ask a question?”
“Sure.”
“When we visit the family…
Read full article...



Missionary Debriefing – Part IV by Tim Olson

This series of four articles is based on a Mission Coaches Network teleconference with guest speaker Ruth Maxwell. Ruth is a career missionary with SIM and has served in Liberia, Kenya, Canada, and presently, in…
Read full article...



From Entertainment to Enrichment: Transforming Summer Vacations through Coaching. By Gregory Bland

OK, now that our vacation is winding down and we’re on our way home, let’s take turns and we’ll share what our favorite part of the trip was.  Who will go first?
‘I will,’ one…
Read full article...



Missionary Debriefing – Part III by Tim Olson

This series of four articles is based on a Mission Coaches Network teleconference with guest speaker Ruth Maxwell. Ruth is a career missionary with SIM and has served in Liberia, Kenya, Canada, and presently, in…
Read full article...



Coaching Tips: Needs of Longterm Missionaries Part 1

Last year many of us at CMI had the privilege of providing coaching to a group of longterm career missionaries who had never received coaching before.  A couple coaches, after working with their new clients…
Read full article...



Teaching our Kids to ask Effective Questions by Jeff Williams

“What are you doing, dad?” Carly asked over the phone. I’d been out of town for almost a week. We’d had a few good conversations during my trip, but this wasn’t one of them because I simply responded to her question…She wanted to know more, but didn’t know how to ask…the conversation would have gone better and she would have learned something important had I seized the opportunity to teach her to ask sharper questions.
Read full article...



Talking About Talking: Creating the Conditions for Great Conversations by Jeff Williams

When we talk about talking before we have conversations it puts us in a good position to take stock of our mental and emotional reserves to determine if we have enough fuel in the tank to be our best in the way we listen and respond. “Can I serve Jill well right now? Will I be able to turn off the conversation in my head and to table distractions so that I can really hear her thoughts and feelings?
Read full article...



Helping Your Client Value Themselves by Sharon Graham

What if the cost of their success is so high that they are actually destroying their body in the process? Do you have clients who have little to no margin in their lives? Their packed-tight schedule leaves no room for down time or time to spend with their family.
Read full article...