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Dave was a youth pastor from a local church whom I’d been coaching for several months. One day he began to share his frustrations with Mike, one of the adults on his leadership team. Mike had been a member of the team before Dave was hired, and his ideas of what youth ministry ought to be were aligned more with the previous youth pastor’s approach than they were to Dave’s. As Dave settled into his role and began to carry out the mandate he’d been hired to accomplish, Mike got more and more upset.
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Posted in Featured Content by Tony Stoltzfus Oct 10th, 2011 |
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Coaching is based on internal motivation. The biggest obstacle to growth and change is motivation, not information. You can come up with a great idea for how to make a client’s life better, but if that person isn’t looking to change in that area, proposing it was a complete waste of time. People are the most motivated to act on their own plans and ideas. Therefore, if you want to maximize growth, you’ll allow people to set their own agenda, because that’s where the motivation is highest.
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Posted in Featured Content by Tony Stoltzfus Sep 12th, 2011 |
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Making Life Messages is one of the more unilateral things God does. He decides where he is going to meet us, he creates or leverages the circumstances that get our attention and motivates us to engage him at the heart level. When we do engage him, it is Jesus that invades and transforms our hearts, too. Our job consists of two things: recognizing where he is already at work and choosing to go there with him.
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Posted in Featured Content by Tony Stoltzfus Aug 8th, 2011 |
Tags: Life Purpose and Destiny, Personal Growth, Perspective |
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A Life Message is a place in your heart where you have deeply meet Jesus, his life has replaced your natural life, and that incarnation flows out as a Message of Christ to others. Together, these Messages combine to form your being call—the essence of the Christ-in-you that is channeled through your calling role to impact others. Life Messages are individual facets of Christ’s character you specially model, while your being call is all those messages rolled together.
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Posted in Featured Content by Tony Stoltzfus Jul 18th, 2011 |
Tags: Life Purpose and Destiny, Personal Growth, Perspective |
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Early in my coaching profession I took 2-3 pages of notes per client. I captured a lot of the call, but had this sense that I was missing something important – that which could only be gathered in the moment of the dance. I soon dropped to maybe ¼ page of notes. That also seemed insufficient as my relationship with the client deepened. This pendulum swing began a journey of fine-tuning my note taking skills for the sake of optimizing client relationships.
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Posted in Coaching Tools by Tony Stoltzfus Jun 27th, 2011 |
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Ever coach someone who just can’t seem to get unstuck on the road to their destiny? Our first instinct as coaches is to help the person identify circumstances that block them or internal obstacles that hold them back, and then find a way around those obstacles. We operate this way because of a core belief most coaches share: that every person has a God-given destiny, and that anyone can find and follow that destiny today.
But what if our fundamental beliefs about destiny are wrong? Does everyone really have a destiny? And...
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Posted in Featured Content by Tony Stoltzfus Jun 18th, 2011 |
Tags: Life Purpose and Destiny, Personal Growth, Transformation |
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How an Entire District of One Denomination Embraced Coaching
Why has Western Ontario District [WOD] of the Pentecostal Assemblies of Canada been able to create an environment in their organization where people value coaching and desire to implement it in their ministry settings?
Nine years ago, two key leaders in WOD felt compelled to look for a tangible leadership development program that they could offer credentialed leaders (pastors) in their organization. In searching out what were identified as growth areas by a collaborative committee representing members in the organization, WOD was introduced to...
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Posted in Featured Content by Tony Stoltzfus Apr 1st, 2011 |
Tags: Become a Coach, Coaching Relationship, Impact of Coaching |
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If you’re a new coach trying to build a presence online, consider article marketing as a strategy for gaining online recognition and driving traffic to your website.
How many times you have researched a topic online…
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Posted in Web Marketing by Tony Stoltzfus Mar 14th, 2011 |
Tags: Life Balance, Marketing |
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In this article you'll discover how to create an informational audio product for almost no money. Record an interview about how your coaching program is unique and effective. End the recording with an invitation to…
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Posted in Transformational Coaching - Guests Posts by Tony Stoltzfus Feb 15th, 2011 |
Tags: Benefits of Coaching, Coaching Relationship, Communication, Networking and Referrals |
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Taking the Long View
Transformational coaching is taking the long view in working with people. Companies that are managed to generate short-term profits ignore research, product development and employee training because they don’t contribute to the…
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Posted in Transformational Coaching by Tony Stoltzfus Jan 7th, 2011 |
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Build People, Don’t Solve Problems
As coaches, we can choose to focus on becoming or on doing: on preparing people’s character for eternity or on making sure things are done right today. In practical terms, we…
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Posted in Transformational Coaching by Tony Stoltzfus Dec 7th, 2010 |
Tags: Accountability, Coaching Relationship, Impact of Coaching, Leadership, Techniques and Skills, Transformation |
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Want to know where your niche or target market is located at online? You can find gobs of folks on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Yahoo groups. Become a member of each, complete…
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Posted in Web Marketing Guest Posts by Tony Stoltzfus Dec 6th, 2010 |
Tags: Business, Marketing, Networking and Referrals, Techniques and Skills |
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Listening: Curiosity vs. Diagnosis
“During coach training, my homework was to get feedback on my listening skills…You have to listen while someone talks about something valuable in his or her life, and then do…
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Posted in Transformational Coaching, [None] by Tony Stoltzfus Nov 7th, 2010 |
Tags: Asking, Coaching Relationship, Listening, Perspective |
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Great Probing Questions Are Neutral.
“Why did you ever take that job in the first place?”
“Tell me about how you’ve allowed your job to rob you of your personal time.”
“You mentioned that you loved being…
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Posted in Transformational Coaching by Tony Stoltzfus Oct 7th, 2010 |
Tags: Coaching Relationship, Listening, Values |
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Asking Powerful Questions:
“The purpose in a man’s mind is like deep waters, but a man of understanding will draw it out.” Proverbs 20:5
“The other day my son came home with…
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Posted in Transformational Coaching by Tony Stoltzfus Sep 7th, 2010 |
Tags: Coaching Relationship, Discipleship, Listening, Techniques and Skills |
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