You are a coach, and you have a dilemma. A client asked you to help him to clarify his life purpose and to make a plan to pursue it, which you are happy to do…
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The pastor looked stunned by my question. He’d expected affirmation for his efforts to defend marriage as one man and one woman at some city commission meetings. “That’s great”, I said, “But when are you going to do something proactive and effective to heal, strengthen and restore marriages in your church?”
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Growing marriages often experience seasons of growth and pleasure followed by seasons of frustration and pain. Three steps forward and two steps back. Why is this and what can be done about it?
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The primary difference between couples that remain together in mostly pleasurable relationships and ones who don’t is the way they resolve conflict…a coaching approach to conflictive conversations is a great way to protect your marriage.
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For years in our marriage I was peppered with questions when I walked in the door from a long day of work or business trips. Jill was anxious to “hear all about it”, but I was anything but ready to talk… Thankfully, we’ve come to an understanding that is good for our marriage…
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It’s early in the New Year, and a good time to tune up communication for a great year of marriage! Some basic coaching skills and process can be helpful. What? You don’t need a tune-up?
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When you feel the urge to speak, ask yourself if you’ve listened long enough. Even better, ask the person you’re listening to, “Is there more you would like to say, or more that you would like me to understand?” NOT, “Are you done yet?
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If relationships go as well as possible, they won’t go smoothly…A coach approach to conversations is a great way to reconvene a relationship after any period of silence or frustration.
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One of the most challenging circumstances is coaching your own marriage through a season of grieving. Three months after our wedding Jill’s twenty-six year old brother was killed. Immediately I lost my wife to her grief…Eventually she recovered, and we recovered us, but not before many hours were invested…
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Loving listening is a simple skill, but it isn’t easy to do. Why? It’s difficult because dying to self is required. In order to truly ‘get’ your partner and what they really want in relationship with you, YOU MUST DIE!
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Do you realize that the best aphrodisiacs in the world are free? As Marriage Coaches we regularly prescribe them for couples struggling with emotional and physical intimacy. What are they?
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“What will it take for this couple to do what is needed to help their marriage!?  How much pain do they have to be in to do the work of reconciliation?!”

Those…
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Saving marriages is one thing, but helping couples to live in a pleasurable and purposeful relationship is another. Can marriage be about more than commitment, endurance and perseverance? Can more couples experience more pleasure, joy, purpose and fulfillment? YES…
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You’ve completed your introduction and orientation session with a couple. The couple to be coached is satisfied with their understanding of the process, and they think it might be helpful. Now What? It is essential to get answers to three questions as soon as possible…
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It is the number one request of couples seeking Marriage Coaching: Improved Communication. This seems to bear witness to the maxim that, “The conversation is the relationship and the relationship is the conversation.” How can Marriage Coaches help couples to improve their communication?
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