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Archive for 2011

Making Life Messages by Tony Stoltzfus

Making Life Messages is one of the more unilateral things God does. He decides where he is going to meet us, he creates or leverages the circumstances that get our attention and motivates us to engage him at the heart level. When we do engage him, it is Jesus that invades and transforms our hearts, too. Our job consists of two things: recognizing where he is already at work and choosing to go there with him.
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The Discipline of Listening in Pro-Active Parent Coaching Part 1 by Gregory Bland

Genuine interest is an essential ingredient in listening (to our children) and genuinely expressing that interest keeps conversation flowing.  There is nothing more disheartening than beginning to open up and share your heart with someone…
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What Are Life Messages? by Tony Stoltzfus

A Life Message is a place in your heart where you have deeply meet Jesus, his life has replaced your natural life, and that incarnation flows out as a Message of Christ to others. Together, these Messages combine to form your being call—the essence of the Christ-in-you that is channeled through your calling role to impact others. Life Messages are individual facets of Christ’s character you specially model, while your being call is all those messages rolled together.
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3 Gracefull Coaching Parenting Tips by Nellie Phiri

The challenges faced by today’s parents

Many parents today feel so powerless and ineffective in raising their children. They also feel so helpless and such a sense of failure when they are faced with…
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Asking a Key Element in Pro-Active Parent Coaching by Gregory Bland

Asking is a powerful discipline for the Pro-Active Parent Coach. The very act of asking a question sets our children’s mind toward finding an answer and creates space for additional information to emerge. Asking, instead…
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Listening Write by Cheryl Scanlan

Early in my coaching profession I took 2-3 pages of notes per client. I captured a lot of the call, but had this sense that I was missing something important – that which could only be gathered in the moment of the dance. I soon dropped to maybe ¼ page of notes. That also seemed insufficient as my relationship with the client deepened. This pendulum swing began a journey of fine-tuning my note taking skills for the sake of optimizing client relationships.
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When Your Default Settings Work Against You Part 2

As coaches, we are trained to help people over the hurdle of being “stuck”. But what happens when you, the coach, find yourself stuck? How long does it go on? Do you have a strategy for getting moving again? Take a few minutes to read my story and see if you can relate…..
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When Destiny is an Unattainable Goal by Tony Stoltzfus

Ever coach someone who just can’t seem to get unstuck on the road to their destiny? Our first instinct as coaches is to help the person identify circumstances that block them or internal obstacles that hold them back, and then find a way around those obstacles. We operate this way because of a core belief most coaches share: that every person has a God-given destiny, and that anyone can find and follow that destiny today.

But what if our fundamental beliefs about destiny are wrong? Does everyone really have a destiny? And…
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Four Principles for Connecting with Your Child by Gregory Bland

A relational connection with our child is essential to a healthy and productive parent coaching relationship.  Without it, our conversations will be shallow, lack significance, and meaning.  With it, our coaching conversations are more heart-felt…
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A Helping Hand to Get Spiritually and Physically Fit

Quick check. 1-10, how do you feel about your spiritual fitness today? Now rank your physical fitness. Drum roll…and the number is…

Most people I ask that question to, myself included, find them themselves having one side stronger than the other. People say, “I am in great shape right now, but I have let my spiritual life slide.” Others feel very close to Christ, yet have way too much jiggling going on. What about you?
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How to Coach Your Marriage Through Difficult Conversations

The primary difference between couples that remain together in mostly pleasurable relationships and ones who don’t is the way they resolve conflict…a coaching approach to conflictive conversations is a great way to protect your marriage.
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What Makes a Parent Coaching Question Powerful? by Gregory Bland

It doesn’t matter how great our questions are, if we do not have a relational connection, the answer we receive from our children may lack meaning, heart, and depth.  One of the ingredients…
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Is Coaching Too Time Intensive by Tim Cosby, M.Div, CLC

?One of the obstacles to creating a culture of coaching in organizations is the belief that coaching is too time-intensive. The argument is that it takes less time to tell people what to do than…
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Coaching for Healthy Relationships

As Christian coaches, we are blessed with some awesome truths. We have a relational God. Who loves us abundantly as His children. God chose us before the foundations of the world, rather than…
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What is Pro-Active Parent Coaching? by Gregory Bland

Pro-Active Parent Coaching is a natural approach to parenting that will strengthen relationship while providing our children with a healthy support structure for their growth and development.  This is accomplished by offering a simple and…
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