Creating a Firm Foundation by Kristin SchuchmannAug 3rd, 2009 | By Sharon Graham | Category: Wellness Coaching Guest Posts
Getting to the Bottom of the Wellness “WHY”
…it is by faith you stand firm. 2 Corinthians 1:24b
This is a guest post by Kristin Schuchmann of http://CharisChildbirth.org
Have you ever made a decision to accomplish something, only to become discouraged, change your mind, or give up before you had reached your goal? As coaches, our clients make decisions and set goals with the intention of succeeding, but they are often met with obstacles and opposition that have the potential to keep them from realizing their wellness dreams.
Those obstacles may be cultural, wrong beliefs, changes in routine, unexpected difficulties, etc; and opposition from well-meaning friends and family members who either do not agree with their choices or who resist change can come as a surprise.
There is much coaches can do to help their clients stand firm in their decisions and reach their goals even in the face of discouragement. One thing I have found extremely valuable to my clients is helping them dig deeper and get to the bottom of WHY they desire to succeed in their quest for wellness. This discovery process creates a firm foundation on which to stand when challenges come and it leads to much greater success as a result.
When people are asked “why” they desire an aspect of wellness such as weight loss or better eating habits, their initial answer is rarely the “why” that is big enough to keep them on track. It usually starts with something weak like, “to be healthier.” So we ask, “Why is it important to you to be healthier?” Continuing to ask “why” and dig deeper after each answer will generally lead to the bigger reasons and values behind the decision.
Sometimes the reasons are fear-based. When a fear-based decision is discovered, it is time to explore other, more positive reasons to continue moving toward wellness. In the childbirth classes I have taught over the past 22 years there are many who choose natural childbirth. Not all of them, however, have made that decision for the right reasons. I have found that some decide not to have an epidural simply because they are afraid of needles or afraid they will become paralyzed. That is NOT the right reason to choose natural childbirth. Very few who have made a fear-based decision have been successful in accomplishing a natural childbirth and many of them feel like failures as a result. I learned early on that I needed to help my students revisit that decision, discover why they have made that choice, learn more about the benefits and drawbacks of their options, pray and ask the Lord for guidance, and get to the deeper “why”.
Decisions and conclusions made based on faith (the leading and guidance of the Lord and knowledge of His promises in the Word) are built on an unshakable foundation rooted in the assurance of the perfection of God’s will. When we are challenged in that area, we are confident in our God and His direction for our lives; and, therefore, will not be swayed.
Decisions and conclusions made based on fear (an ungodly fear based on circumstances and experiences that contradict the Word of God or because of lack of trust in God or His Word), however, are built on an unstable foundation that is resting on the sin of unbelief. When we are challenged in that area, our decisions are not firm and we can easily be swayed.
Keeping those deep, faith-based “whys” in the forefront makes it much easier to successfully navigate the obstacles and opposition. We know that challenges always come when we have made a quality decision to change. We can help our clients to be ready when those challenges come.
“Jesus said, ‘Everything is possible for him who believes.’ Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, ‘I do believe, help me overcome my unbelief.'” Mark 23b-24
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; acknowledge Him in all your ways, and he will direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5
In addition to being a coach, consultant, motivational & pro-life speaker, childbirth educator, and doula, Kristin Schuchmann is the founder and executive director of Charis Childbirth, an international school for birth professionals. She and her family live in southwest Florida where they pastor New Life Church of North Port.