What are Women Lacking in the Area of Communication, by Kimberly DinsdaleMay 1st, 2009 | By Kimberly Dinsdale | Category: Coaching Women
Having a Bachelor of Arts with an emphasis in Speech Communications, and having been a student of interpersonal communications before college and ever since, the subject of how women communicate is dear to my heart. When I consider the question, “what I find most lacking in the area of communication with women,” the answer comes quickly, “the lack of authentic, vulnerable, interpersonal communication that makes a difference in people’s lives.” I long to have conversations that fit that description and find in general most people are not eager to participate in relationships of that level. I believe this is true for society as a whole, but specifically for Christians.
My experience has been that women would rather keep quiet about important, personal, sensitive topics and focus conversation around surface issues or “safe” issues. Could it be this lack of authenticity leads to lack of accountability? Which may then lead to women becoming lost and isolated, craving relationships they have no idea how to create or ask for. I continue to hear women say they want to connect on a deeper, more personal level, yet they lack the skills and haven’t had those types of relationships modeled for them.
What has been your experience? How regularly do you communicate with authenticity and vulnerability? At what point in your friendships/relationships do you allow yourself to converse about deeper issues than the weather? How can we as coaches, assist women in developing skills to more effectively connect at meaningful levels? If you don’t see this as an issue, who role modeled authentic communication in your life and how do you continue to role model that for other women? As we look to scripture, how many references and in what context do we see Jesus talking about the weather?